Winning Strategy 1- Learn Retreat and Think Things Over Instead of Stonewalling

Agree ahead of time and practice a ritual called “Retreat and Think Things Over.” This means to have a plan to get way from each other for about 20 minutes when thing start to escalate into the yelling-withdrawal cycle. This will allow time for things to cool down before trying again to deal with the issue at hand.

Keep your commitment to indeed deal with the issue at a later time when things are calmer. 
During the cooling down period, consider meditating about the problem to get perceptive. An excellent app to do that can be downloaded free at headspace.com