What Are some common examples of Defensiveness?


  • Your partner suggests you might be talking a little too loud and you become hurt and immediately say “I am not talking too loud- you are overly sensitive”
  • Your partner says you are grouchy and not much fun and you immediately defend yourself and attack back with “grow up..life is more than just having fun and playing games.”
  • Your partner requests that you talk more to each other. You say “You knew I was like this when we got married. Why should I change now?”