How To Deal With Resentment in Your Marriage

Introduction
Lesson 1 – Resentment and Your Relationship
3 Topics
Do you see yourself as the Injured Partner or the Offending Partner?
All resentments are not created equal: Three types of resentment
How resentment can destroy a marriage
Decide To Deal With Resentment
Lesson 2 – DECIDE to give up resentment
8 Topics
Stubbornness and refusal to change
Injured Partner: How to DECIDE to let it go
Offending Partner: DECIDE what to do
Understanding resentment
Can you relate to any of these resentments?
Anatomy of resentment in your marriage: Part 1
Anatomy of resentment in your marriage: Part 2
What beliefs stop the Injured Partner from letting go of resentment?
ACKNOWLEDGE the issue causing resentment
Lesson 3 – ACKNOWLEDGE your contribution to both the problem and your reaction to it
7 Topics
Empathy: Injured Partner responsibility
Empathy: Offending Partner challenges
Injured Partner: Acknowledge your hurt
Offending Partner: Acknowledge what you did – fall on your sword!
Seeing resentment from your partner’s point of view
What would a camera see of how you handled a resentment event?
Feeling what your partner feels about events that cause resentment
REMEMBER skills that work for you
Lesson 4 – REMEMBER skills that work for you to deal with resentment in your marriage
6 Topics
Injured Partner: Remember thought tools to let it go
Offending Partner: Remember how to stay out of trouble
Affirmations for both partners
Self-Talk for Injured Partner to remember
Self-Talk for Offending Partner to remember
Widen your viewing lens of the Offending Partner
EXECUTE a plan to forgive, or ask forgiveness
Lesson 5 – Executing winning strategies to deal with resentment
4 Topics | 1 Quiz
Injured Partner: Execute winning strategies
Offending Partner: Execute winning strategies
Five Losing Strategies for the Injured Partner
Five Losing Strategies for the Offending Partner
Winning strategy quiz
Where to go from here
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What would a camera see of how you handled a resentment event?

How To Deal With Resentment in Your Marriage Lesson 3 – ACKNOWLEDGE your contribution to both the problem and your reaction to it What would a camera see of how you handled a resentment event?

When we are angry or upset we often get lost in the moment and lose persepctive of how we are being seen by others. Pretend that your actions/reactions were recorded by a video camera. Write in your log what that camera would have seen.

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