Decide To Deal With Resentment
ACKNOWLEDGE the issue causing resentment
REMEMBER skills that work for you
EXECUTE a plan to forgive, or ask forgiveness

Injured Partner: Remember thought tools to let it go

Relationship resentments don’t usually disappear overnight. Letting go of them is often a work in progress. It is normal for them to wax and wane, to be strong and then weak, to come and go. While time is often the main healer of resentments, you can often speed things up by using mental tools that work for you – such as the use of humor, remembering inspirational quotes, repeating certain affirmations to yourself, changing your self-talk about your resentment, and widening the lens through which you see your offending partner or the offense he/she committed.

The mental skills in this lesson are best learned if repeated and practiced often – like learning to play the piano. They involve the process of forgiveness. Some of the skills in this lesson will work much better for you than others. Our program is designed to help you discover what works best for you and then encourage you to use those skills on a daily basis.