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Lesson 5 – Executing winning strategies to deal with resentment

Let’s review:

Remember our process of DARE? D= Deciding to let it go. A= Acknowledging your contributions to resentment issues. R= Remembering tools that work for you as either the Injured or the Offending Partner. E= Executing winning strategies to deal with resentment.

So, here we are! You have DECIDED to let it go (step 1). Your partner has ACKNOWLEDGED and you have accepted that there was a contribution to the resentment by both of you (step 2). You have are working to REMEMBER the methods that work for you (step 3) to let go or resentment or gain forgiveness and become a better partner. How do you put it all together so it works for both of you?

What is a winning strategy vs a losing strategy?

In terms of resentment, a winning strategy is one that accomplishes the goals of reducing feelings of resentment in the relationship. The purpose of this lesson is to think of terms of how to deal with resentment in your marriage if you are the injured partner or the offending partner.

Let’s see how to do this…

Lesson 4 – REMEMBER skills that work for you to deal with resentment in your marriage

Purpose of this lesson

The purpose of this lesson is to remind you use skills that work for you to let go of resentments if you are the Injured Partner – or to remember how to ask for forgiveness or how to prevent future resentments if you are the Offending Partner.  These skills should be practiced daily.

Remember the skills that work for you to let go of resentment or ask forgiveness

Let’s start with looking more closely at your feelings of resentment.

Lesson 2 – DECIDE to give up resentment

Purpose of this lesson

Lets, face it. Why are you reading this page? More than likely, it is because you took our Anger Quiz and as a couple, scored high on Resentment. Or, one or both of you is suffering from living in a relationship atmosphere with lot of hurts and grievances, but little repair. And one of you has told your partner that you don’t want to live like this anymore… or that things are so bad that it is hurting your children.

Decide what you will do about the issue whether you are the Injured or Offending Partner

Let’s now look at a few other issues around deciding to deal with resentment in your marriage.

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