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  • How to Get the Most out of Marriage Counseling
    by Dr Tony Fiore

    A guide for Orange County couples on the brink of divorce Many couples come to me after they’ve tried traditional marriage counseling. They’re usually frustrated and depressed. One of the most common things they say is: “We tried marriage counseling and it didn’t work!”  If you feel this way, you’re not alone. But, as you’ll see,… Read more The post How to Get the Most out of Marriage Counseling appeared first on The AngerCoach.

  • What to do if one spouse doesn’t want to have sex
    by Dr Tony Fiore

    When a Spouse Doesn’t Want to Have Sex It has been two months since Janet and Mark have had sex. They’re hardly speaking to each other. If you asked Janet about this, she would say that their home has become a battle zone-they fight about every little thing. Janet goes out of her way to… Read more The post What to do if one spouse doesn’t want to have sex appeared first on The AngerCoach.

  • Couples in crisis: How couple therapy mitigates stubborn psychological defenses
    by Dr Tony Fiore

    Guest article by Dr James Tolbin. Edited slightly and reproduced with permission. Why does a couple typically seek therapy? Research indicates that by the time a couple seeks couple therapy and arranges an appointment, the partners have been at war for multiple years on a range of seemingly unresolvable issues. Often a recent event is… Read more The post Couples in crisis: How couple therapy mitigates stubborn psychological defenses appeared first on The AngerCoach.

  • ANGRY AT YOUR PARTNER? Think Again!
    by Dr Tony Fiore

    Literally, think again. And then think about what you are thinking about- especially around anger issues. As famous psychologist William James said over 100 years ago: “Man can alter his life by altering his thinking.” The case of Sally and Jim Sally and Jim sat in my office glaring at each other. Sally told a… Read more The post ANGRY AT YOUR PARTNER? Think Again! appeared first on The AngerCoach.

  • Successful Marriage: Love ain’t enough says Dr Tony Fiore
    by Dr Tony Fiore

    What are these “thirds” that are destructive to a relationship?A destructive third can be anything that prevents a couple from having a close bond, having each other’s back and prioritizing their relationship. Thirds can create havoc in a marriage, yet the problem is not strictly a marriage problem per se. The real problem is inability… Read more The post Successful Marriage: Love ain’t enough says Dr Tony Fiore appeared first on The AngerCoach.

  • Can I Fall Back in Love After The Thrill is Gone?
    by Dr Tony Fiore

    Having been a therapist for over thirty years, I am always pleased to find new ways of helping couples. A few years ago, I discovered a treatment approach by Willard Harley that’s short term and practical. Combined with other techniques that I use, this approach has proven effective. Furthermore, it offers hope to relationships that… Read more The post Can I Fall Back in Love After The Thrill is Gone? appeared first on The AngerCoach.

  • Anger and couple finances: How to avoid financial infidelity
    by Dr Tony Fiore

    The most valuable thing in a long-term stable relationship is having a partnership, and most new couples don’t realize that money is a major factor in marital happiness. Money is one of the biggest generators of problems, arguments, and resentment in long-term relationships. Couples argue about spending, saving budgeting, and disparity in earnings. When couples… Read more The post Anger and couple finances: How to avoid financial infidelity appeared first on The AngerCoach.

  • Men: How to disarm an angry wife
    by Dr Tony Fiore

    According to famed therapist Terry Real, the short answer is: “To disarm an angry woman, give her what she needs.” To illustrate this point, let me introduce to 55 year-old Jerry who came to see me because his very angry (Linda) gave him the ultimatum of seeing a therapist or a divorce lawyer. (He had… Read more The post Men: How to disarm an angry wife appeared first on The AngerCoach.

  • Orange County marriage counselor asks: Is your marriage worth saving?
    by Dr Tony Fiore

    The Story of Mary and Bill Mary and Bill were a nice couple empty nesters. Married 20 years, hey had built a nice life together. Their mortgage was low, their children were in college and doing well, most of the time they got along with each other fairly well. But one day Mary told Bill… Read more The post Orange County marriage counselor asks: Is your marriage worth saving? appeared first on The AngerCoach.

  • Angry at narcissistic husband? How to cope short of divorce!
    by Dr Tony Fiore

    Anger and partner narcissism: Betty and Jason Betty and Jason had been married for 5 years and were now being seen in couples therapy because of almost constant conflict. Jason saw the problem as “Betty’s anger” which he couldn’t cope with and caused him to completely emotionally shut down. He constantly threatened divorce lamenting that… Read more The post Angry at narcissistic husband? How to cope short of divorce! appeared first on The AngerCoach.

  • 8 things you can do TODAY to prevent angry partner blowups
    by Dr Tony Fiore

    Spending so much time together in social isolation during the pandemic is bound to challenge the patience and coping skills of many partners. Fortunately, new technology has been developed to help you stay calm called “Gaze-Spotting” based on the original work of Dr. David Grand, developer of a technique called Brainspotting. STEP  1 : Walk… Read more The post 8 things you can do TODAY to prevent angry partner blowups appeared first on The AngerCoach.

  • Lovehacking: Quick fixes to improve your marriage or relationship
    by Dr Tony Fiore

    How Love-Hacks can give your marriage a tune-up To fix a truly troubled marriage takes much effort and commitment. But, many marriages or relationships just need a tune-up. One psychologist, Dr. Eli Finkel, calls these “Lovehacks” in his new and very well-researched and well-thought-out book “The All-or-Nothing Marriage: How the Best Marriages Work.” Lovehacks provide… Read more The post Lovehacking: Quick fixes to improve your marriage or relationship appeared first on The AngerCoach.